While every situation is undoubtedly unique, it seems typical for potential adoptive fathers to take a little longer to warm up to the idea than their better halves. I have some theories as to why this might be. As usual, I don’t have a lot of (read: any) data or psychological studies to support my philosophical meanderings, but that won’t stop me from sharing them.
I love, love hosting parties. I wouldn’t say I’m great at it, and it can be very stressful, but having people over is so much fun. This year, I decided to host a Christmas brunch for the ladies in my family. I figured that people are less likely to already have plans on a Saturday morning than an evening around the holidays. Also, I had a lot of recipes I was dying to try from my Pinterest boards. 🙂
I decided to go with a metallic theme, because there’s something about silver, gold, and white that feels so elegant and festive. I added in a few rustic elements as well, like this pinecone wreath in the entryway, with several different types of wintery trees around it. (The wreath is from Joss & Main.)
I’ve had several people say to me that they know they want to adopt at some point in the future. That is so exciting to hear!! If adoption is on your heart, you should absolutely listen to that calling. Even if you’re not quite ready yet, there are a few things you can be doing now that could help you be more prepared in the long run.
Everybody says children are expensive. They ain’t lyin’! 😉 One of the biggest issues and obstacles surrounding adoption is the cost. The money side of things can be a very uncomfortable topic for everyone involved. For many people, the decision to adopt comes after thousands of dollars already spent on infertility treatments, and the cost seems insurmountable. It’s easy to get frustrated if you dwell on the fact that you’re paying a lot of money for something that most people get “for free.” The truth is, yes – it can be very expensive. But it is NOT impossible. (To put it in perspective, it can easily be less than the price of most new cars.) If you are considering adoption, please don’t let the cost be what stops you from pursuing it. Read on to find ways to help make adoption a little easier to afford.
I’ve mentioned before that I’d like to occasionally post things not adoption-related, and this is one of those posts. On an average day, I love to shop, but on Black Friday, I shop like it’s my job. (DISCLAIMER: family comes first on Thanksgiving, always. I refuse to put shopping over family time. What I’m talking about comes after that.) In case you haven’t done Black Friday shopping before, or just want to be better at it, here is a strategy (and survival) guide for you!
This one’s for the fellas.
It could be her biological clock. Some people blame it on maternal instincts. Maybe you think society puts too much pressure on women. Whatever your favorite lady’s reason, you will likely be faced with the prospect of tending to an impatient wife once she contracts baby fever.
If you are a dude who finds himself in this position, let me offer you a few key pieces of advice. I’m no Solomon, but these have made my life easier, won me a few extra of those ever-coveted brownie points, and hopefully helped ease the emotional burden only an expectant mother can understand.
Hi there! As I mentioned in the last post, one way Josh and I try to get through the adoption wait is by occasionally going on a weekend getaway. In October, we booked a little cabin in the mountains in Altamont, TN on Airbnb. We have had a rough year for several different reasons, so this was the perfect chance to escape, just the two of us. We also planned to do lots of reading and writing (I was in the planning stages of this blog), and practice using the new camera Josh had just surprised me with for the blog (best husband ever!). I completely underestimated how much we needed this weekend and the relaxation and revitalization we would gain from it.
I do NOT like to wait. I always try to find my hidden Christmas presents. I use Amazon Prime Now like it’s going out of style. I also ruin my nails every. single. pedicure because I just can’t sit there that long. Soooo needless to say, this waiting process has not been easy! Josh and I are learning what it means to be patient. Below are some things we’ve done to help us get through the wait. I think they could be applicable for waiting adoptive parents and expecting parents alike.
So, now you know a little bit about why I’m writing a blog, but in case you were wondering why we are adopting in the first place, here is a little more about our story:
I met my husband, Josh, in the youth group at church during middle school, and we started dating in high school. We got married the year before we graduated college after dating for almost six years. We’ve now been married for 7 ½ years, and, I can honestly say, we are more in love now than ever before. Life has brought lots of trials our way, but I know that we are stronger because of them. I can’t imagine doing life with anyone else.
I LOVE LISTS. I honestly can’t remember a time when I didn’t make lists. I recently rediscovered a notebook from first grade where I had made lists of boys I liked (complete with “Y” or “N” for whether I thought the feeling was reciprocated), people I wanted to invite to future birthday parties, and times my mom was mean to me (which, in hindsight, were not near as legitimate as they seemed at the time). My lists now are a lot less dramatic, but equally satisfying to create.
So, all that said, it seems only fitting to start off my first blog post with a list. 🙂
WHY I AM STARTING A BLOG
- To document our adoption journey for my future child(ren) to look back on when they’re older
- To allow our friends and family to embark on this journey with us
- To encourage others who are thinking about adoption
- To provide resources for people wanting to adopt and those already in the process
- To be able to write, a passion I haven’t made a priority in way too long
Blogs are such a cool invention. I have consistently read countless other blogs for years now, and it’s one of my favorite parts of each day. I love reading hilarious stories from other peoples’ lives, learning tips and ideas I never would’ve thought of on my own, and getting decorating and cooking inspiration from all over the world. I really hope that this blog, a real blog of my own, will make a little difference in the world and provide enjoyment and resources for other people as well. I am starting this because of our adoption journey, but will be incorporating lots of other topics as well, like home decorating, travel, and life in general. I’m so excited! Thanks for being here.