So, now you know a little bit about why I’m writing a blog, but in case you were wondering why we are adopting in the first place, here is a little more about our story:
I met my husband, Josh, in the youth group at church during middle school, and we started dating in high school. We got married the year before we graduated college after dating for almost six years. We’ve now been married for 7 ½ years, and, I can honestly say, we are more in love now than ever before. Life has brought lots of trials our way, but I know that we are stronger because of them. I can’t imagine doing life with anyone else.
Adoption holds such a special place in our hearts. We both have friends and family members who were adopted, and I grew up watching my dad facilitate adoptions for people at church and seeing the blessings that came out of each adoption story. We have talked and dreamed about adoption since we were in high school (no joke!). It became real to us when we went on a mission trip to Honduras my junior year. We were visiting an orphanage, and 3-year old little girl came up to us. She immediately latched onto Josh, and didn’t want to leave his side the entire time we were there. We all laughed and played for hours. We sat back down on the bus to leave the orphanage, looked at each other, and decided right then and there that, whether or not we were physically able to have children, adoption would somehow be part of our plan. (Yes, we are weird, and knew at age 17 that we would one day get married.)
Fast-forward to 2014, when I was diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis, an autoimmune disease that, in my case, was pretty debilitating. To try to control this disease, my rheumatologist put me on several medications, one of which would cause severe problems if I were to get pregnant. That was the trigger that helped Josh and me realize, it was time. Soon after, we began the process of domestic infant adoption.
Everyone approaches adoption differently, for sure, but we now had a peace that this is what we were meant to pursue. We decided to take it slowly at the beginning, doing lots of research, adoption training, and praying. In the midst of all that, I was diagnosed with a second autoimmune disease (turns out they travel in packs), Graves Disease, a form of hyperthyroidism. Learning how to manage this disease slowed down the process a bit, but further confirmed that we are doing the right thing. My body is just not currently able to handle a pregnancy.
We completed our home study and application in 2015 and turned in our profile book in February 2016. That marked the beginning of our “waiting period.” Since then, we have been anxiously awaiting “the call” that tells us we have been matched with a birth mother and trying our best to stay patient and keep busy in the meantime. (I’ll have a post soon on what that has meant for us, as the wait has definitely been the hardest part thus far!)